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Stuck on an Escalator

Read this: Joe’s Story Joe, had been unemployed for several years now. He didn’t have any disabilities-just  didn’t feel the need to work. Joe kept busy driving the children to dance, soccer, basketball, piano lessons etc etc. He was a counselor in the Elder’s Quorum...

Relationships Have Rules

RELATIONSHIP WITH A NATIVE-AMERICAN A few years ago the Feds called and asked if I would do a forensic evaluation on a young man on the Indian Reservation in Southern Utah. I said “Yes” of course. Then they asked if I had any Native-American Culture training. I said...

How To Develop Self-Love: Spend Time Alone

How To Develop Self-Love: Spend Time Alone

You are responsible for your ability to love, but not for the outcome of another's life. You can do everything right as a parent or spouse, but there is no guarantee your child or spouse will change. A reminder why its important to develop "Self-Love" a healthy focus...

Suffering Behaviors – Are you a Martyr?

Suffering Behaviors – Are you a Martyr?

Check out: Brief History of Codependence How Do Normal Families Adjust To Addiction? Rescuing Behaviors - First Responders Persecuting Behaviors Suffering behaviors are also known as being a "victim" or a "martyr."  Suffering behaviors typically occur after the...

How do normal families adjust to addiction?

How do normal families adjust to addiction?

Check out: Brief History of Codependence Rescuing Behaviors - First Responders Persecuting Behaviors Suffering Behaviors - Are You A Martyr? Normal healthy families adjust to addiction and other's in need, by developing predictable behaviors. These behaviors are...

Persecuting Behaviors

Persecuting Behaviors

Check out: Brief History of Codependence How Do Normal Families Adjust To Addiction? Rescuing Behaviors - First Responders Suffering Behaviors - Are You A Martyr? Persecuting Behaviors Start When The Rescuer Gets Fed Up, Angry and Resentful Persecuting behaviors...

Rescuing Behaviors- First Responders

Rescuing Behaviors- First Responders

Check out: Brief History of Codependence How Do Normal Families Adjust To Addiction? Persecuting Behaviors Suffering Behaviors - Are You A Martyr?  FIRST RESPONDERS COME TO THE RESCUE - IN THE NAME OF LOVE Generally, it is impossible for those with addictions or other...

A Brief History of Codependence

A Brief History of Codependence

Check out: How Do Normal Families Adjust To Addiction? Rescuing Behaviors - First Responders Persecuting Behaviors Suffering Behaviors - Are You A Martyr? A normal healthy family (and even families that aren’t healthy) can adjust to a family member’s “problem...

When Love Becomes Codependence

When Love Becomes Codependence

Having worked in the psychological profession for 40+ years I've learned techniques to determine whether or not a individual is emotionally healthy. One of the best and most effective way is determining the level of focus one has on him/herself.  Here is the...

One Question

ONE QUESTION YOU SHOULD ASK YOUR KID You want to prevent underage viewing of pornography in your family? Here’s how … Have ongoing conversations with your kid about: sexual messaging, pornography, body parts, dating, sexual behavior, and personal religious beliefs and...